Ping Pong Tournament Benefit

Ping Pong Tournament Benefit Friday, January 9, 2009 from 6:00 pm to 9:00 pm at Watertown High School, 825 Endeavour Drive, Watertown. Cost is $10 per person all money raiser to go to the Matt Krueger Family as Matt continues his battle against cancer.

Trophies to be awarded for 1st and 2nd place finishes in both the singles and doubles brackets. Other door prizes will also be awarded. Food will be sold as will popcorn and other snacks.

You might be asking yourself, "Ping Pong, I used to play this game as a child. It might be a lot of fun!" Well, I'm here to tell you, it will be lots of fun! Plans are to have 4-6 tables setup in the Commons Area. Students as well as Staff and other adults are encouraged to play! The more players the more money donated to the Kruegers! Where else can you have so much fun and benefit someone else at the same time?

For more information about Matt's struggle go to his Internet Site. Matt is a 2007 graduate of Watertown! Thank you for your support and interest.

So far donations have been made by Hardees of Watertown, J&L Tire Johnson Creek, Walmart of Watertown, Watertown High School and The Blue Zone within the high school! If you are interested in donating please contact me via e-mail at neidnerp@watertown.k12.wi.us. Hope to see you all at the Benefit!

Teen Relationships, are they healthy?

Are you a teen? Are you involved in a relationship? You must educate and empower yourself to build violence free relationships. Many think that violence only comes in the form of physical acts taken against another person. Have you ever been teased, sent a hurtful text message or read harmful words on a computer? These too, are acts of violence taken against another person. These acts affect our emotional well-being and can leave lasting scars.

Teenagers place emphasis on being popular and this is especially true when it comes to adolescent girls. Being a parent and a Police/School Liaison Officer, I see others place importance on looks, popularity and relationships with the opposite gender. The order in which they rank these three items of importance changes by the minute. Depending upon what happens with these matters, can result in whether or not the teen has a positive day or experiences hurt, loneliness and loss of self-worth. The latter, may lead to hurting themselves, friends and family members with words of their own.

Teen Dating statistics show one out of every three relationships show signs of abuse. If one party shows patterns of controlling the behavior of another, this is abuse. Teen violence is often hidden from others because the teen has little to no experience in relationships, they want independence from parents, peer pressure directs them to be violent and they have romantic views of dating. Some young boys feel the need to possess others by having complete control, the need to demand intimacy and they may lose respect from their “guy” friends if they show attentiveness and support to their girlfriends. Young girls feel that they are the ones responsible for solving problems in the relationship, possessiveness and jealousy is romantic and abuse is normal because their friends are being abused too. It’s no wonder teens feel this way, have you listened to current music trends, watched music videos, movies or television shows? Ask yourself, “How is the Media portraying the genders?” We have become a society that is num to not only violent physical acts, but emotional ones too.

Teens Dating Bill of Rights and Pledge:

• I have the right
• To always be treated with respect
• To be in a healthy relationship
• A healthy relationship is not controlling, manipulative, or jealous
• A healthy relationship involves honesty, trust, and communication
• To not be hurt physically or emotionally
• To refuse sex or affection at anytime
• A healthy relationship involves making consensual sexual decisions
• You have the right to not have sex
• Even if you had sex before, you have the right to refuse sex for any reason
• To have friends and activities apart from my boyfriend or girlfriend
• To end the relationship
• I pledge to
• Always treat my boyfriend or girlfriend with respect
• Never hurt my boyfriend or girlfriend physically, verbally or emotionally
• Respect my girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s decisions concerning sex and affection
• Not be controlling or manipulative in my relationship
• Accept responsibility for myself and my actions
  

It is important that teens have a dating plan and safety plan with regards to relationships.

Help teach your children the importance of healthy relationships. Provide them with the education to empower themselves to know what is right and what is hurtful. No one should control another person. Parents, what examples are you modeling for your children? Is your relationship at home one of abuse? If it is, report it! Take a stand by getting help. In Jefferson and Dodge Counties contact People Against a Violent Environment (PAVE) or People Against Domestic Abuse (PADA). There are support groups and shelter care facilities to keep you safe.

Remember, you have the right to be safe, the right to be heard and the right to say no. Other sites to visit that offer help with relationships include;

Dating Violence

Beak the Cycle

Love is Respect

Self Injury or Teen Cutting

Emma's mom first noticed the cuts when Emma was doing the dishes one night. Emma told her mom that their cat had scratched her. Her mom seemed surprised that the cat had been so rough, but she didn't think much more about it. Emma's story hits the homes of teenagers around the world. Parents, teachers and friends have seen the marks, however accept many explanations except the truth. The truth is adolescent depression, confusion, fear and is seen more and more frequently in girls than boys.

Why Do People Cut Themselves? It can be hard to understand why people cut themselves on purpose. Cutting is a way some people try to cope with the pain of strong emotions, intense pressure, or upsetting relationship problems. They may be dealing with feelings that seem too difficult to bear, or bad situations they think can't change.

Some people cut because they feel desperate for relief from bad feelings. People who cut may not know better ways to get relief from emotional pain or pressure. Some people cut to express strong feelings of rage, sorrow, rejection, desperation, longing, or emptiness. Those that Self-Injure (SI) themselves might be a sign of other abuse the child is experiencing in the home or with teen relationships. This type of abuse includes; mental, physical, sexual and neglect. Often if children are not getting their basic needs fulfilled at home, they reach out to others to acquire these necessities. Teens who cut themselves many times want to be discovered. Many don't know there are other ways to address the many emotions they are feeling.

How Does Cutting Start? Cutting often begins on an impulse. It's not something the person thinks about ahead of time. Shauna says, "It starts when something's really upsetting and you don't know how to talk about it or what to do. But you can't get your mind off feeling upset, and your body has this knot of emotional pain. Before you know it, you're cutting yourself. And then somehow, you're in another place. Then, the next time you feel awful about something, you try it again — and slowly it becomes a habit."

Natalie, a high-school junior who started cutting in middle school, explains that it was a way to distract herself from feelings of rejection and helplessness she felt she couldn't bear. "I never looked at it as anything that bad at first — just my way of getting my mind off something I felt really awful about. I guess part of me must have known it was a bad thing to do, though, because I always hid it. Once a friend asked me if I was cutting myself and I even lied and said 'no.' I was embarrassed."

What can you do to help a cutting friend? Look for signs of cutting. Your friend wearing long sleeve shirts to hide SI. Your friend becoming a loner and spending less time with you. Help them, help themselves by;

• Talk about it
• Tell someone
• Help your friend find resources
• Help your friend find alternatives to cutting
• Acknowledge your friend's pain
• Be a good role model

What should you not do, as a friend? Do not deliver ultimatums, don't accidently reinforce the behavior and do not join in. By doing these things, you will only be adding to the pain your friend is experiencing.

What should you do to prevent further injury to yourself? Tell someone, ask for help and help identify the troubles that are causing you to self-injure yourself. Although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible. Getting professional help to overcome the problem doesn't mean that a person is weak or crazy. Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's other problems in a healthy way.

Scars express the hardships she had to endure. Outside she is healed. Inside she still bleeds. Longing for someone to bandage her. A poem from a cutter.

Learning to Cope: Teens & Stress

Too many of today's children have straight teeth and crooked morals. ~Unknown high school principal

How should we as parents help our teenagers from folding under today's pressures? First off, focus on the positives your child has accomplished. We all like to hear good things said about what we do, how we act and the decisions we make. Never start off a conversation by telling them you are disappointed and they need to change. Remember, you once we like them, a teenager, facing similar life changing choices. The world today, is much different than it was when we were young. Next, look for signs. Be involved and stay involved in their lives. Make sure that they don't become overloaded with today's pressures. Finally, teach stress management. Offer different ways to deal with stress. Some strategies include; exercising, following a healthy diet and keeping a journal.

Allow your teenager to express themselves through communication. Keep in mind that communication is never a one-sided conversation. You need to listen as much, if not more than you talk. Parents tend to think they have all the answers because they have been there before. I agree that most have a tremendous array of knowledge, however the pressures teenagers are facing today is so much different and as parents we don't have all the answers.

For example, teenage girls often feel they need to meet three basics requirements of fitting in; to be popular, to be pretty and to have a "guy friend". The order of how they obtain these goals changes minute-by-minute. Should something be said about their looks, friends or "guy friend" during the day, many a time they have lost an entire learning day if not more at school. This shows the amount of pressure they and others place on them. Teenagers need to be reassured on a daily basis to be true to themselves. Don't give in to what others think is important. Only they can make decisions about their life.

Many teenagers become involved in risk making decisions because of wanting to accomplish those three goals noted above. Risk taking includes drinking alcohol, taking drugs and sexual relationships. These risk-taking decisions may forever change their life. Indicators are present and must be identified immediately before damage occurs.

Teens are not always equipped to handle on their own the physical, emotional and psychological changes they experience during adolescence. Parents MUST be there to offer guidance and support! Parents must learn more about the current pressures middle school and high school teens are facing today.

A real informative website to help parents is Parents: The Anti-Drug site. Again, any words that are in red, when clicked on, leads to a link on the Internet. Within this site you will read information on other pressures teens have, some have already been named above; others include; To fit in, To be sexually active, To pick on others, To be successful and To be perfect. What can parents do?

The site addressed above will also give you much more information on drugs that teens are experimenting with today. One of the biggest increases I have seen through the years is the use of prescription drugs. Many adults who have prescriptions fail to safeguard them at home and/or never finish using the entire amount thus leaving them behind. Know the signs, be informed and empower yourself as a knowledgeable parent. Don't live in the world of when you were a teen, times have forever changed! You will need to change with them in order to help your teenager get through the pressures of their youth. Watch the Superbowl Ad on safeguarding your teens.

Strawberry Quick?

This is a new drug known as 'strawberry quick '.
There is a very scary thing going on in the schools right now that we all need to be aware of.

There is a type of crystal meth going around that looks like strawberry pop rocks (the candy that sizzles and 'pops' in your mouth). It also smells like strawberry and it is being handed out to kids in school yards. They are calling it strawberry meth or strawberry quick.

Kids are ingesting this thinking that it is candy and being rushed off to the hospital in dire condition. It also comes in chocolate, peanut butter, cola, cherry, grape and orange.

Please instruct your children not to accept candy from strangers and even not to accept candy that looks like this from a friend (who may have been given it and believed it is candy) and to take any that they may have to a teacher, principal, etc. immediately.

Pass this email on to as many people as you can (even if they don't have kids) so that we can raise awareness and hopefully prevent any tragedies from occurring.

Energy Drinks or Alcopops! Know the difference!

Do you really know what your kids are drinking? Can you tell which of these contains alcohol? NOTE: These are NOT energy drinks - despite the visual similarity.

Tilt is an energy drink, containing alcohol. It is marketed as a "Premium Malt Beverage". Its active ingredients include caffeine, ginseng, and Guarana. Its alcoholic content by volume varies, from 6.6 in the berry flavor and up to 8% in the lemon lime, higher than most American beer (commonly 3-6%), and slightly higher than competitor Sparks (7% maximum). Joose is an alcoholic energy drink and is growing in popularity due to its relatively high alcohol content (9.0-9.9% ABV) compared with other beverages generally available at a convenience store such as beer (typically 5-6% ABV) and other alcoholic energy drinks (typically 8% ABV). Joose is comprised of malt beverage, caffeine, taurine, ginseng, and natural coloring. Joose is currently available in 23.5 oz orange, red, or blue cans on a black background. Sparks is a caffeinated alcohol beverage, one of the first such beverages. Its active ingredients caffeine, taurine, and ginseng are common to energy drinks; however, its additional focus on alcohol is not. Its packaging states a 6% alcoholic content by volume. Sparks currently is available in 16oz silver cans with bright orange tops, with a "+" printed near the top and a "-" printed near the bottom, to give the can a battery-like appearance. A diet version "Sparks Light" with a bright blue top is also produced. A higher alcohol version (7.0%) called "Sparks Plus" is available in both 16oz and 24oz cans and has a black top. 3SUM is an Alcopop "infused" with the energy components caffeine, ginseng, and taurine. 3SUM is considered an energy drink and a flavored alcoholic beverage. 3SUM is available in 4 different flavors: original, apple, tropical, and watermelon. Four is a 16oz canned alcoholic malt beverage sold in the United States and produced by Phusion Projects Inc. of Chicago. It contains 6.0%ABV as well as carbonation, sugar and artificial flavoring, similar to other alcopops. Its name is derived from its four other ingredients, caffeine, taurine, guarana, and FDA approved wormwood oil, the species of which is unknown. Rockstar Twenty-One is available in two varieties and both contain an alcohol content of 6.9% by volume.

Alcohol is a depressant. The term “alcoholic energy drink” is an oxymoron. There is a large body of research showing that a drunken person plus caffeine still equals a drunken person. That being said, a number of brewers have been jumping in on the action. That lucrative energy drink market is just too tempting. In many ways it’s a similar situation to the “hardcore” energy drinks. It’s all about marketing - and many of these drinks look just like a typical energy drink (and apparently fool store clerks too). Virtually all of them are “infused with caffeine, ginseng and guarana” and are 6-12% alcoholic by volume. Industry Sales Strategies:

Three-Point Plan for Targeting Youth; create brand confusion with nonalcoholic versions, provide a cheap alternative to mixing energy drinks with alcohol, deploy youth-friendly grassroots and viral marketing.

The Exploding popularity of Energy Drinks; 500 new energy drink products introduced worldwide in 2006. Energy drink sales = $3.2 billion! 31% of 12-17 year olds are regular consumers verse 22% of 25-34 year olds!

Unexcused Absences

The State of Wisconsin defines Truancy under State Statute 118.163(d) as a pupil who is absent from school without an acceptable excuse under 118.15 and 118.16(4) for part or all of any day on which school is held during a school semester. Furthermore, Habitual Truancy is defined under 118.16(1)a as a pupil who is absent from school without an acceptable excuse for part or all of 5 or more days on which school is held during a school semester.

Now that you know the definitions, parents whose children who fall into one or both of the above categories may receive a written letter from the school addressing the unexcused absence. This letter helps to alert parents of the school's concern. It is within these absences, students tend to fall behind, placing them further and further from an education they so rightly need to be successful.

Calls and letters are intended to notify parents and students that corrective action is needed immediately. If corrective action is taken, then no contact by the School Resource Officer will be conducted. Should telephone calls and/or letters go unanswered and no improvement is made as to attendance, then municipal citations can be issued. Should a student continue to be habitually truant, then the school may file a truancy petition with Human Services asking for the County to become actively involved and court system to mandate the child to attend school. This of course, would not be needed should the family work with the school and get their child back into attendance.

Municipal Citations that are issued carry a mandatory court date. Truancy citations carry a bond if found guilty to not exceed $50, where as an Habitual Truancy citations carries a bond of less than $500.

Under another City Ordinance #11.118 Contribute to the Truancy of a child, parents and/or guardians can be issued citations for a role in the absence of the child. This usually occurs with elementary and some middle school age students. The bond for a violation of this ordinance is $109. It is understood that high school students because of their age, should be able to get to school on their own, without the active role of a parent as with much younger children.